Managing Grief during the Holidays
The holidays are a difficult time for people who have lost a loved one in the past year or two. The festivities of the season can cause someone grieving to feel overwhelmed or isolated. Here are some tips for getting through the holidays:
1. Begin early to think about your holidays. Consider what is most important to you and who you need to speak with.
2. Be patient and realistic. Leave the words "I should" or "I ought to" out of the holidays season this year.
3. Let your plans and limits be known. Take time for self care and listen to what your body and your heart are telling you.
4. Recognize that family get-togethers may be difficult.
5. Spend time with people who you find supportive and comforting.
6. Remember that grieving is both emotional work and physical work.
7. Have a response ready when well-meaning people wish you a 'happy holiday'.
8. Keep the memory of your loved one alive and hold on to your hope.
9. Seek out professional help if you need it.
10. Remember that the anticipation of any holiday is often worse than the holiday itself.